Preparing versus Recovering

At least three of my clients have told me recently about occasions when they've done something big -- a workshop or an event, and they've been exhausted, or even become ill, and been forced to take more time off after the event than they'd planned for. "What could you...

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We are not what we do.

Just replied to an email from someone who told me how torn she was between her old career and something new she wanted to do -- and was holding herself back from. It's funny how we define ourselves by what we do -- I do it, too -- but the truth is that we are who we...

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Stealing Like an Artist OR Just Plain Stealing?

Something came up today that made me reflect on the difference between being inspired and influenced by someone else's work, and outright copying. Everything we do comes from the ideas that are around us -- Steal Like an Artist -- I totally believe in that maxim; it...

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I used this four-letter word….

I gave a talk to a network of coaches a couple of weeks ago about leadership and deep coaching. About what it means to lead in our role as a coach, and what a client should expect from the coach they choose to work with. I think the topic is something that applies...

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Can we separate the message from the messenger?

During the US election, my newsfeed (and I'm sure yours, too!) was full of political conversations. Rather than debate the results or the rights and wrongs of each person, there's one aspect I want to reflect on:   Can we separate the message from the messenger?...

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Other People’s Epiphanies are Overrated

I was talking to a client last week who told me she sometimes felt a bit of a fraud because she hadn't had one huge 'epiphany' in her life. She felt that her process of long-term and more gradual change stacked up badly compared to some of the self-help gurus she...

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What’s the question behind your question?

On Building Resilience   I was asked by a client this week to look at a piece of work she'd done. Something new, a bit experimental, and she wanted feedback on whether it was going to work. And it was very tempting to give in -- to dive in, to solve 'the problem'...

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Are you an expert or an explorer?

One of the distinctions I make in my course on How-To Writing, I talk about the difference between being an expert and an explorer. An expert is someone who is writing from the perspective of what they know, and an explorer is someone who is -- well literally --...

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