Where in your life are you waiting for ‘one day’?
A few weeks ago, I was in LA with a friend and she was telling me her latest TV crush is the US show ‘What Not to Wear’.
I haven’t seen that version, but it reminded me that I had liked the ‘Trinny and Susannah’ version from British TV from — well, quite some time ago! What I liked about the show wasn’t the sartorial advice, but the matter-of-fact (OK, slightly obnoxious 😉 ), very British approach that Trinny and Susannah had to “just getting on with it.”
The magic, in my opinion, came from the fact that Trinny and Susannah focused on the person in front of them exactly as she showed up. They was no weight loss programme or fitness regime; nothing that seemed to require anyone to do anything — they just put the person in nicer clothes and a little more make-up — they weren’t trying to change anything in her personal circumstances so that she would be ‘ready’.
Which is important because it speaks to cause and effect.
How many of us think we’ll do something ‘one day’? Where ‘one day’ is actually code for needing to create something before we can ‘allow’ ourselves to do or have the thing we really want?
“I’ll do X when I’ve lost weight, got fit, earned more money, got to a certain level at work… (insert your own favourite excuse here.)”
Yet, when Trinny and Susannah returned a few weeks later, those circumstantial parts of someone’s life had often changed anyway. The participants did lose weight, become more sociable, had better relationships, and so on.
Not because they were focusing on doing anything different, but because they were being different.
Which is what true transformation looks like.
When our thinking settles, we see the world differently, and therefore we create a different world around us.
We become happier, and more at peace with ourselves, whether or not we end up with those things we thought would make us happy. Yet, surprise, surprise, when we stop obsessing them, those things often arrive anyway.
Those women created what they thought they wanted in their lives without focusing on the change in any way whatsoever.
There was no doing.
The only thing that had been missing for them was the ability to see that this concept of ‘one day’ and waiting for something to change, was creating the very reality they wanted to escape.
The problems we have are only problems because we think they are.
This is such a common-sense idea, yet so many of us miss it. We don’t have to do anything…
Let me ask then, where in your life can you stop waiting for ‘one day’? Where can you just do whatever it is you think you need to wait for?
I’d love you to comment below and let me know!
P.S. I’m interviewing people to fill a one-to-one private client spot at the moment. If you’re inspired to achieve more, and you’ve had enough of waiting for ‘one day’, then please email me at info [at] cathypresland [dot] com and tell me more about what you do and what you’d like to change.